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What do YOU believe?

"Your beliefs become your thoughts,

your thoughts become your words,

your words become your actions,

your actions become your habits,

your habits become your values,

your values become your destiny."

— Mahatma Gandhi

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If no one had ever told you what it meant to be Black or White, gay or straight, man or woman, Christian, Mormon, Baptist, Muslim, Hindu or Buddhist, what would you believe?

If no one ever told you who you were supposed to be, how you were supposed to walk, talk, act, think or believe, what would you believe? Who would you be? How would you naturally walk, talk, act, think or believe with no interference?

If no one ever told you what was "right" or "wrong", or what it meant to be "good" or "bad" what would you believe?

If no one ever told you about God, Heaven, Hell or an afterlife, what would you believe?

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What do YOU believe?

Deconstruction is a process

Your deepest and most tightly held beliefs are not always religious beliefs. Beliefs do not just refer to what you believe about God, heaven, hell or morality. In fact, many of our most deeply held beliefs have to do with who we believe ourselves to be versus who we think we are "supposed" to be, or how we are "supposed" to walk, talk think and act.

Our most deeply held beliefs are often in conflict, because they are handed to us by our parents, our churches, our schools and our communities. Many times the messages we receive from each of these groups about what matters or is most important are contradictory, leading to a mental condition called cognitive dissonance.

Deconstruction

Are you thinking of leaving a church or questioning your beliefs? Has your faith fallen apart entirely? Questions are good and healthy and one of the first steps towards healing. Let me help guide you through religious deconstruction with compassion and clarity.

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Recovery

Do you have compulsions and habits that you can't explain and perhaps even feel ashamed of? Do you keep making the same bad choices over and over, even though they bring you pain? The 12-Steps can help, let me help guide you through them.

Do you feel stuck, unable to move forward or even backward and unable to understand what is holding you back? Do you feel like you have so much more capacity than what you are doing now, but don't know how to live up to the potential you know you have? I can help!

Life Coaching

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Do you feel like you move through the world as your true, authentic self, or do you feel like you live your life hiding behind a mask?

"Masks" are the ways in which we protect our most vulnerable self, but they also keep us from experiencing true connections with others. You can't experience connection if you can't be honest about who you are, because you will live in chronic fear of being exposed.

I can help you find the courage to remove the mask and start to live freely as your true, authentic self.

Do you ever think people wouldn't like you if they knew who you really are?

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Treating the whole person

The Western medical industrial complex has bisected human beings into two parts, the body and the mind, yet they still treat both as if all issues are biological (stemming from the body). People are told they don't have depression, they just have a "chemical imbalance" and are still treated with medication, as if their problem has a physical cause.

While it may be true that you have a chemical imbalance, what they are not looking at is what caused it. Trying to treat it with medication is not going to heal the underlying issue (generally a trauma) that caused the condition, so trying to treat it with medication is like sewing up a gunshot wound with the bullet still inside.

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Conversely, many spiritual leaders believe that all issues have a spiritual root and that both physical illnesses and mental health issues can be cured by simply "praying them away." They refuse to acknowledge the realities of living in a physical body that is controlled by an independent mind.

Some Eastern practices, such as Ayurveda, purport to treat the "whole" person, but even then, Ayurveda still defines a "whole" person as only the mind, body and soul.

Externally, it may appear to heal, and it will to a certain extent. But beneath the surface it's going to continue to cause issues that will become more and more severe over time until they may even become life-threatening. All because they were "patched up" without being healed.

If you seem to have an issue that affects your body in some way, you will likely see a physician who will only look at the body. If you seem to have a "mental health" condition, such as anxiety or depression, you might see a therapist, but they are also likely to treat any issues as if they are biological, by prescribing medication. Western medicine no longer treats chronic disease as something that can be cured, but rather rather something to simply be managed with the right medication.

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Traditional Chinese medicine (TCM), however, deals with Qi, or the vital life force that flows through all beings. TCM acknowledges that when there is a block in the Qi (a disruption in the flow of energy) it can lead to both physical and emotional imbalance and, perhaps even more importantly, that emotional imbalances can lead to physical issues.

In both Western and many traditional practices, there is an adamant refusal to acknowledge that humans are emotional beings, and that "blockages" (which I believe are caused by trauma) - or an inability or unwillingness to feel or express emotions can cause issues in the physical body.

Once again, human beings are four elemental, so I believe that healing only happens by addressing all four elements, the mind, the heart, the body and the soul.

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What that looks like...

One of the most destructive aims of capitalism is to convince us that we are incapable of achieving good health on our own. Capitalism needs us to believe that we need expensive products, treatments, courses, counselors and gurus to achieve good health.

In all actuality, it is the very products they are selling us that are the most damaging to our health. Particularly when combined with the stress it causes most of us to do what needs to be done to afford all of those products and treatments. So as our health deteriorates, it just sends us seeking more products, which only leads to further deteriorating health, creating a deadly spiral.

I want to help you stop the spiral, step outside of the noise and find the tools you need, the ones you already have at your disposal, to create and maintain good mental, physical, spiritual and emotional health.

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MIND

SOUL

HEART

BODY

I will help you learn how to quiet your mind when anxious thoughts come. Through prayer, meditation, journaling or other practices that can help you find and maintain a calm, peaceful center. There are many practices that can help you achieve this, we will find the one(s) that work best for you.

Most of us have spent years, sometimes decades, hiding, stuffing or avoiding our feelings. The thought of accessing them can be scary because it can feel like a powder keg ready to explode. I will help you not only access your feelings, but understand how to deal with the inevitable fallout when you finally release them..

It is ironic how badly we damage our bodies in pursuit of the perfect one. I will help you learn how to love and care for your body through rest, good nutrition, activities that are good for your mind, heart, body and soul, and develop a healthy relationship to food - the literal source of all life.

Many people are walking away from churches because they have become places that simply offer a "moral checklist" of do's and don'ts. Your soul needs care and feeding the same way your body does. I will help you learn and understand what your soul needs to thrive.